This or That Questions: 250+ Prompts for Every Group

It's the awkward first minute of a video call. Nobody wants to talk shop yet, but small talk about the weather is somehow worse. Then someone drops one simple prompt: "Coffee or tea?" Suddenly the whole group has an opinion, and the room comes alive.

That's the magic of this or that questions. You give people two options, they pick one, and the why behind their choice does all the work. No prep, no awkward silences, no "tell us a fun fact about yourself" dread. They're the fastest icebreaker there is, and they work for literally any group.

This page is a big, sorted list: 250+ this or that questions across funny, food, travel, pop culture, work, couples, kids, teens, friends, and deep prompts. Scroll to the category you need, read them straight off the screen, or copy a handful into your next meeting.

Want to make it a game instead of a list? On Flat.social you can run these live: walk your avatar to a corner to vote, hear your group by proximity, and watch the room split in real time. We'll show you how further down. First, the questions.

Fun This or That Questions

Start here. These fun this or that questions work for any crowd, any age, any setting. They're the warm-up round: light, fast, and guaranteed to get a reaction. Perfect as the first few prompts before you move into a themed category.

1. Coffee or tea?
2. Sweet or savory?
3. Beach or mountains?
4. Cats or dogs?
5. Early bird or night owl?
6. Texting or calling?
7. Books or movies?
8. Summer or winter?
9. Pancakes or waffles?
10. City or countryside?
11. Window seat or aisle seat?
12. Pen or pencil?
13. Shower in the morning or at night?
14. Sneakers or sandals?
15. Sunrise or sunset?
16. Sweet popcorn or salty popcorn?
17. Sit-down meal or grab and go?
18. Planner or go with the flow?
19. Hot weather or cold weather?
20. Ketchup or mustard?
21. Comedy or horror?
22. Board games or video games?
23. Bath or shower?
24. Spicy or mild?
25. Stairs or elevator?

Keep these on hand as a default opener. For more warm-up ideas, our icebreaker questions list pairs perfectly with this round.

Funny This or That Questions

When you want laughs more than data, reach for these. Funny this or that questions force ridiculous trade-offs, and the answers say way more about a person than they intend. Great for breaking tension fast.

1. Fight one horse-sized duck or a hundred duck-sized horses?
2. Always be slightly itchy or always be slightly sticky?
3. Have fingers as long as your legs or legs as long as your fingers?
4. Sneeze glitter or cry confetti?
5. Only whisper or only shout?
6. Have a permanent clown nose or permanent clown shoes?
7. Laugh at the worst moments or cry at the funniest ones?
8. Be unable to lie or unable to stop lying?
9. Live in a world with no music or no internet?
10. Have a rewind button or a pause button for your life?
11. Be 10 minutes late everywhere or 20 minutes early everywhere?
12. Talk to animals or speak every human language?
13. Have spaghetti for hair or sausage fingers?
14. Always have to skip everywhere or always have to dance everywhere?
15. Be famous but hated or unknown but loved?
16. Have a third eye or a third arm?
17. Sweat maple syrup or smell like a wet dog?
18. Wear wet socks for a year or no socks ever again?
19. Have a tail you can't control or wings you can't use?
20. Always have a popcorn kernel stuck in your teeth or sand in your shoe?

Food This or That Questions

Nothing sparks a debate faster than food. These this or that questions about food and drinks are dangerously divisive, in the best way. Use them at lunch syncs, virtual happy hours, or any time you want a loud, harmless argument.

1. Pizza or burgers?
2. Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?
3. Chocolate or vanilla?
4. Coke or Pepsi?
5. Fries or onion rings?
6. Tacos or burritos?
7. Crunchy or smooth peanut butter?
8. Cake or pie?
9. Hot dog or hamburger?
10. Cereal first or milk first?
11. Breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
12. Sushi or steak?
13. Iced coffee or hot coffee?
14. Soup or salad?
15. Cookies or brownies?
16. Ranch or blue cheese?
17. White bread or whole wheat?
18. Wine or beer?
19. Ice cream cone or ice cream cup?
20. Eat the same meal forever or never eat your favorite food again?
21. Spicy ramen or mild ramen?
22. Fast food or home cooking?
23. Cheese or chocolate?
24. Sparkling water or still water?
25. Fruit or vegetables?

Travel This or That Questions

For wanderlust and daydreaming. These travel this or that questions reveal how people like to explore, and they're a sneaky way to learn where everyone wants to go next. Ideal for remote teams scattered across time zones.

1. Road trip or flight?
2. Mountains or ocean?
3. Hotel or Airbnb?
4. Backpack or suitcase?
5. Plan every detail or wing it?
6. Big city or small town?
7. Hot destination or cold destination?
8. Camping or glamping?
9. Museum day or beach day?
10. Travel solo or travel with friends?
11. Train or car?
12. Window seat or aisle seat?
13. Five-star resort or budget hostel?
14. New place every trip or same favorite spot?
15. Street food or fine dining abroad?
16. Guided tour or get lost on purpose?
17. Carry-on only or check a bag?
18. Sunbathing or sightseeing?
19. Domestic trip or international trip?
20. Morning explorer or late-night wanderer?

Pop Culture This or That Questions

Movies, music, and the great franchise wars. These prompts are perfect for trivia-loving groups and friendly rivalries. Fair warning: some of these have ended friendships.

1. Marvel or DC?
2. Star Wars or Star Trek?
3. Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings?
4. Netflix or YouTube?
5. Movies or TV shows?
6. Pop or hip-hop?
7. Throwback hits or new releases?
8. Subtitles or dubbing?
9. Binge a whole season or one episode a week?
10. Live concert or music festival?
11. Action movie or rom-com?
12. Reality TV or scripted drama?
13. Vinyl or streaming?
14. Superhero or supervillain?
15. Book first or movie first?
16. Podcasts or audiobooks?
17. Animated film or live action?
18. Sequel or reboot?
19. Stadium tour or intimate gig?
20. Spotify or Apple Music?

This or That Questions for Work

These this or that questions for work are office-safe, fast, and great for team meetings, standups, and onboarding. They reveal personality and work style without getting too personal. Drop two or three into the start of a call to wake everyone up.

1. Email or Slack?
2. Work from home or work from the office?
3. Morning meetings or afternoon meetings?
4. Coffee break or snack break?
5. To-do list or just remember it?
6. Open floor plan or private office?
7. Big project or lots of small tasks?
8. Call or message?
9. Deadline-driven or self-paced?
10. Team brainstorm or solo deep work?
11. Standing desk or sitting desk?
12. Inbox zero or inbox chaos?
13. Plan the week ahead or take it day by day?
14. Video on or video off?
15. Whiteboard or spreadsheet?
16. Lead the meeting or take the notes?
17. Casual Friday or dress up every day?
18. Headphones on or open to chat?
19. Quick reply or thoughtful reply?
20. Hot desk or assigned desk?
21. Lunch at your desk or step away?
22. Detailed plan or rough sketch?
23. Async updates or live sync?
24. New tool every month or stick with what works?
25. Celebrate small wins or save it for the big one?

Looking for more team energizers? Our 5-minute games for virtual meetings and virtual team building activities build on this idea.

This or That Questions for Couples

For date nights, anniversaries, or just learning something new about the person you think you know. These this or that questions for couples range from light to a little flirty, so read the room. Great over dinner or on a long drive.

1. Night in or night out?
2. Cook together or order takeout?
3. Cuddle on the couch or go for a walk?
4. Plan the date or surprise me?
5. Big wedding or tiny ceremony?
6. Beach honeymoon or city honeymoon?
7. Movie night or game night?
8. Slow dance or sing in the car?
9. Handwritten note or long text?
10. Breakfast in bed or brunch out?
11. Adventure together or relax together?
12. Same hobby or separate hobbies?
13. Early sleeper or late-night talker?
14. Flowers or chocolates?
15. Road trip or staycation?
16. Hold hands or arm around you?
17. Talk it out tonight or sleep on it?
18. Matching outfits or never matching?
19. Sweet text or surprise call?
20. Stay in our pajamas all day or dress up for no reason?
21. First-date butterflies or comfy old-couple energy?
22. Plan the future or live in the moment?
23. Pet names or full names?
24. Dance in the kitchen or watch the stars?
25. Little gifts often or one big gift?

Want more relationship prompts? Pair these with our get to know you questions.

This or That Questions for Kids

Simple, silly, and screen-free friendly. These this or that questions for kids work at the dinner table, in the classroom, or on a car ride. They keep little ones engaged and giggling, and there are no wrong answers.

1. Ice cream or cake?
2. Swimming or playground?
3. Cartoons or video games?
4. Dogs or cats?
5. Flying or invisibility?
6. Dinosaurs or dragons?
7. Beach or zoo?
8. Pizza or chicken nuggets?
9. Drawing or building blocks?
10. Rainy day inside or sunny day outside?
11. Slide or swings?
12. Chocolate milk or lemonade?
13. Be an astronaut or a pirate?
14. Bedtime story or bedtime song?
15. Snowman or sandcastle?
16. Bike or scooter?
17. Robots or unicorns?
18. Hide and seek or tag?
19. Cookies or candy?
20. Big party or small playdate?
21. Bubbles or balloons?
22. Climb a tree or jump in puddles?
23. New toy or new book?
24. Loud or quiet?
25. Be tiny like an ant or huge like a giant?

This or That Questions for Teens

Made for classrooms, youth groups, and sleepovers. These this or that questions for teens hit social media, school life, and the debates that actually matter to them. Low pressure, high engagement.

1. TikTok or Instagram?
2. Group chat or one-on-one texts?
3. Study in silence or with music?
4. Online class or in-person class?
5. Early to bed or stay up late?
6. Sneakers or boots?
7. Save your money or spend it?
8. Big friend group or a few close friends?
9. Memes or playlists?
10. Phone call or voice note?
11. Math or English?
12. Console gaming or mobile gaming?
13. Concert or movie premiere?
14. Thrift store or new clothes?
15. Coffee shop or boba?
16. Read the book or watch the adaptation?
17. Plan the weekend or be spontaneous?
18. Hoodie or jacket?
19. Class clown or teacher's favorite?
20. Late-night snack or skip it?

This or That Questions for Friends

For the group chat, the friend hangout, or a long catch-up call. These this or that questions for friends test how well you actually know each other. Try guessing each other's answers before they reveal them.

1. Stay in or go out?
2. Call or text the group chat?
3. Plan the trip or just show up?
4. Loud party or chill hangout?
5. Karaoke or trivia night?
6. Split the bill or you got me next time?
7. Coffee catch-up or dinner catch-up?
8. Adventure day or lazy day?
9. Spontaneous road trip or planned vacation?
10. Truth or dare?
11. Movie marathon or game night?
12. Brunch crew or late-night crew?
13. Always early or always running late?
14. Big reunion or small hangout?
15. Inside jokes or new stories?
16. Festival or quiet weekend?
17. Try the new place or go to the usual spot?
18. Text back instantly or reply in three days?
19. Plan a surprise or hate surprises?
20. Same taste in music or total opposites?

Deep This or That Questions

When you want more than a giggle. These deeper, more challenging this or that questions invite real reflection and bigger conversations. Use them once a group is warmed up and comfortable, not as an opener.

1. Wealth or wisdom?
2. Love or money?
3. Be right or be kind?
4. Lead or follow?
5. Live in the moment or plan for the future?
6. Forgive and forget or learn and move on?
7. A long life or a meaningful life?
8. Speak your mind or keep the peace?
9. Change the world or change yourself?
10. Comfort or growth?
11. Take the safe path or the risky one?
12. Be famous or be free?
13. Know the truth or stay happily unaware?
14. Quality time or quality things?
15. Follow your head or your heart?
16. Be the best at one thing or good at many?
17. Adventure or stability?
18. Make others proud or make yourself proud?
19. Time or money?
20. Be remembered or be present?

Rapid-Fire This or That Questions

No theme, no warm-up, just speed. Read these as fast as you can and make people answer without thinking. This is the round where the real answers slip out. Perfect for the energetic close of a session.

1. Left or right?
2. Up or down?
3. Yes or no?
4. Now or later?
5. Big or small?
6. Loud or quiet?
7. Fast or slow?
8. Hot or cold?
9. In or out?
10. Day or night?
11. Salt or sugar?
12. Push or pull?
13. Truth or dare?
14. Win or learn?
15. Talk or listen?
16. Run or walk?
17. Save or spend?
18. Lead or follow?
19. Stay or go?
20. Old or new?
21. Gold or silver?
22. Sun or moon?
23. Fire or water?
24. Online or offline?
25. This or that?

That's 250+ prompts across every category. Bookmark this page and pull it up whenever a group needs a spark.

How to Use These This or That Questions

This isn't just a list to read top to bottom. Here's how to actually get the most out of it.

As a meeting icebreaker: Pick three or four from the work category and fire them at the start of a call. It takes 90 seconds and instantly shifts people from half-asleep to engaged. For a deeper warm-up, combine them with a few conversation starters.

As a party or hangout game: Go around the circle. Each person answers, then has to defend their pick in one sentence. Bonus round: guess what the next person will choose before they say it. Loser of each guess does a silly forfeit.

As a couples or date-night game: Trade off asking each other. The goal isn't the answer, it's the story behind it. "Beach or mountains?" turns into a memory about a trip, which turns into a real conversation.

As a live spatial game: This is where Flat.social shines. Set up a room, label corners, and let people vote by walking. With upcoming live polls and Q&A, you'll be able to track results on a billboard while the group debates by voice. It feels less like a survey and more like a game show.

Pick a Category and Just Start

The beauty of this or that questions is that there's no learning curve. You don't need slides, a facilitator, or a plan. You need two options and a group of people with opinions, which is every group of people.

So bookmark this page. The next time a meeting opens with dead silence, a party hits a lull, or a road trip goes quiet, scroll to the right category and just start reading. "Coffee or tea?" is all it takes to get everyone talking again.

And when you're ready to turn the list into a game, run them live on Flat.social. Walk to a corner, hear your side by proximity, and let the room split itself. Same questions, a whole lot more fun.